How to maintain physical attraction in your relationship

That fear that 'this sizzling romance' will soon fade out, is actually not unfounded.

ALSO READ: 3 things that make couples stand the test of time

Many partners tend to lose the chemistry and physical attraction at some point into their ‘happily-ever-after.’

This might be what actually happens indeed, but it still does not make it right.

The fiery sexual attraction that grabs a hold of you both before marriage, and that remains in those early years of marriage should still be there, burning brightly as ever, 15-20 years into your wedding and even more.

play You can maintain physical attraction in your relationship for long (Quotesgram)

The good news is that you don't need to cram a bunch of stupid sex moves to keep that chemistry in place. [Believe me there are so many ridiculous sex positions you should not be bothering yourself about]

Below are things you should continue to do in marriage that will ensure that your physical chemistry stands the test of time.

If you are yet to marry, you can also start practicing these things now and continue when you marry.

Understand that foreplay starts outside the bedroom

The reason why sexual chemistry is snuffed out over time is because couples neglect the little things, which accumulate and eventually makes one or both of them disillusioned with the whole idea of marriage, and sexual activity then becomes a matter of duty rather than something you enjoy doing.

A lot of people mistakenly think that the time to turn up the romance is behind closed doors at night.

Physical chemistry is said to grow in all the little acts of love throughout the day.

I recently saw a story a lady shared on Twitter about how her parents were so romantic together that they used to feel like they were intruding on them.

play There should be time for just the both of you, even the kids should not be allowed to interrupt that (BlackNet)

She spoke of the little things, the relentless jokes, the gestures you’d only expect from people who are just falling in love, and not those who have been married for long.

Truth is if you want to maintain this chemistry, little gestures such as sending a sweet text, regularly assisting each other, giving one another little gifts, or planning quality time cannot ever be ignored.

It shows your partner that you love them even when sex isn't involved and sustains feelings of intimacy throughout the day.

Couples who are good at speaking one another's love language throughout the day are less likely to be "too tired" at night.

These acts of service are just as important when abstaining from sex. If you and your man are good at speaking one another's love language, you should have no reason to fear that your sexual chemistry won't last!

Put some rituals in place

Truth is, as you both grow older, you will have more responsibilities, more things to invest your time and energy into.

If you do not watch it, these commitments will consume you to the detriment of your sexual chemistry with your partner.

How do you stay committed to your interests, your marriage, and your sexual life?

play That fire should never burn out. Let's keep this romance alive forever. (Stocksy)

The solution is to actively work out time together with your partner. A time spent together, when all things are dropped for your partner . Even the kids are not allowed to disturb this time.

Discuss, do things you usually do together, don’t be too particular about sex, it’ll naturally happen.

Prioritize one another

If you want to safeguard passion in your relationship for a long time to come, learn to put each other first.

In the early periods of romance, natural physical chemistry is made easily possible by the fact that helped along by the fact that everything is new, exciting, and you are totally obsessed with one another.

Eventually, though, life gets busy, and you just might not know when your romance takes second place in your life.

So, learn to constantly put prioritize time with your partner, above your job, above your kids, and surely above all other interests.

5 simple ways to improve your relationship

All relationships — even the best ones — require continuous care and hard work. But that doesn't necessarily mean taking big actions or making dramatic changes.

Little changes also can be tremendously helpful. That's because simple, everyday positive behaviours add up.

Here are five simple ways you can instantly improve your relationship.

1. Focus on what you love about your partner: After spending years together and dealing with day-to-day stress, couples can forget to focus on the positive. Relationships can easily become a litany of "you didn't do this" or "stop doing that." Instead, remind yourself what it was that made you fall in love with your spouse. Focus on the qualities you appreciate. And don't forget to share those thoughts with your spouse.
2. Touch your partner: When you have physical contact, it is harder to remain closed off, angry and disconnected. Just touching your partner or giving them a hug can go a long way in connecting you as a couple. 
3. Listen to your partner: Take the time to listen to what's important to your partner. If your spouse has something to say to you about their feelings, needs, reaction or wants, it behooves you to truly listen rather than respond with either your own opinion or defensiveness to what they said. That's because once you put down your defenses and stop rehearsing your own responses in your head, you'll be able to gain a clearer and deeper understanding of your partner, and your relationship.
4. Find the humour in a situation: Humour heals. It provides us with perspective. Laughter also releases a lot of stress, allowing more positive feelings to ensue. Try to find the light side of a situation, and laugh together.
5. Get intimate: When you connect in a way that is sacred to your relationship alone, you can't help but feel more intimate and connected. Plus, the release of feel-good chemicals also enhances your love and attachment. Relationships require regular maintenance, and the above tips can help you build a healthy, meaningful bond. Often, it's the small steps, taken every day, that can make a big, positive difference in cultivating your connection.

10 Reasons Why You Should Fall In Love with a Nurse

1. Nurses are compassionate. It’s in our nature. If a nurse loves you, she will basically kill herself trying to take care of your needs before her own. In fact, I have figured out a no-fail way to get a nurse to do what you want. All you do is start your sentence off with I really need your help. It has worked for me (on my mother, who is a nurse) every time!  They are just compelled to try to help you in any way you need.
2. Nurses love to take care of people. Yes, they’re compassionate, but nurses also just LOVE taking care of people. Nursing is physically demanding and can be stressful. No nurse stays in it for the money.  Most nurses stay in nursing because we genuinely love taking care of other people. We just do! It’s part of who we are!
3. Nurses are like the medical Macgyver. Nurses can tell you how to treat almost any ailment or fix any problem. We can find an alternate use for almost any type of medical device or equipment. I once patched up a slip and slide with some Telfa and Tegaderm…
4. Nurses can save your life. We are all required to be current in CPR, and most of us are required to have ACLS. If you’re choking, we can perform the Heimlich maneuver. If you come down with Swine Flu, there’s a good chance we’ll recognize the symptoms and get you early treatment.
5. Nurses make good money.  At least, we have the potential to make good money. Our bosses may complain about overtime, but they need shifts covered, so they usually let us work! Get involved in a few hospital committees and work on some unit projects and you’re-in-the-moneeeeey! No matter where in the world you go, everyone needs a nurse. We’re like hot commodities
6. Nurses are manipulative (but in a good way). So nurses are like master craftsmen at getting what they want and making other people think it was their idea. This may not sound particularly appealing to you, but just think about it…they’re not usually going to scream at you or fight with you to get what they want. They’ll sneakily make you think it was your great idea. It’s a win-win for everyone. Trust me.
7. Nurses are flexible. Not that kind of flexible! :/ But they are pretty flexible with their schedules. They’re also use to constantly having to change things and adapt to stuff thrown at them, so it’s pretty hard to faze them.
8. Nurses know how to cook…or at least, how to throw a party.  We have so many bring-a-dish-to-work parties, nurses know how to throw something together. We are the queen of dips and casseroles (at least, here in the South).
9. Nurses are multitaskers.  Nurses can literally do 100 things at once, and they do them all pretty well. We are like the best jugglers e-v-e-r.
10. Nurses know how to deal with crazy – If you decide to wake up one day and completely act like a fool, it will probably not make the nurse next to you blink. We totally know how to deal with crazy, and we also know how to manage it

So go on and do it…fall in love with a nurse! Your life will never be the same
10 Signs You’re Married to a Nurse (because after you fall in love, you get married, and then things get REAL—real quick!)

How to Get Younger Women Interested In You

Are you interested in young women? If so, you might be realizing that attracting younger women isn't quite the same as attracting middle aged or older women. Young women  lose interest FAST, and if you want to keep their interest, you have to really have a tight game down.

This is a skill that almost every man never learns in his lifetime, which is why only a few men can attract young women, especially after they pass the age of 30.

Thankfully, this is a skill that you can learn, and this post will show you the simplest way to get started...

First, Understand Her Needs

No matter what culture or age group they belong to, all people (men and women alike) are driven by the same emotional needs: safety, variety, significance. However, when women are younger, they tend to value different needs than they do as they get older.

Young women have had less "life" under their belts and are therefore a bit more adventurous. This means that their needs for variety and significance are more important than safety and security, significance being the top need (as for most people).

The difference with younger women is that their sense of significance is drawn mostly from their sense of independence, which causes them to resist men who are needy or clingy.

If you want to keep a young woman interested in you, you don't have to be interesting or rich or even attractive (although those things certainly do help). Instead, keeping her interest has more to do with her needs than it does with your personality.

So how can you appeal to her needs for significance and variety and keep her interest?

First, Keep her Guessing

If there's one thing that's true when it comes to attraction with young women it's this: predictable equals boring, which equals unattractive. This doesn't mean that you act like a maniac who has no control over his impulsiveness. What it does mean that you keep from being predictable in your communication, in your behaviors and in your level of "interest" in her.

Young women have been playing this game to keep men interested for ages, but it can work just as well for us. You know how a young woman will keep you guessing about her interest in you? Do the same in your interactions with her, and she'll stay interested just for the challenge of it.

This will fulfill her need for variety.

Second, Ditch the Neediness

Neediness communicates to a young woman that you might be ready to club her over the head and drag her into your cave. Young women see this as a threat to their independence and their sense of personal significance.

Not to mention that it lowers your social value and puts her in a position of power (nothing is less attractive than a man who is being overpowered by a woman). The best way to get rid of neediness is to do two things:

1) Have Your Own Life

Do some things that you do that have nothing to do with her and commit yourself to them - hobbies, your work, or some other kind of ambition. This will keep her from feeling smothered and will show her that you are a man of value and a prize to be won.

2) Have an Abundance Mindset

Thinking that you have to have "her" or that any single woman is "the one" is death to your self-confidence. If she ends up losing interest (or if you even suspect that she is), she'll smell the neediness on you like a shark smells blood.

Women are repulsed by neediness because it communicates weakness and suggest that you don't have the strength to fulfill their need for safety.

So no matter how bad you want this woman, remember that wanting and needing are completely different.
If things don't work out with her, another woman will come along. The more you begin to believe that, the easier it will be for you to keep any woman's interest.